Learning What Being "The Best Version of Me" Means

Monday, 5 February 2018

Learning What Being "The Best Version of Me" Means

I've always been a big believer in the idea that everything happens for a reason, that everything we go through in life can be a lesson. I also believe that we evolve daily into newer versions of ourselves based on our mindset, what we go through and what we see as our future goal. As you probably already know, goals are a big deal to me, I love the aspect of goals and want to be forever evolving, learning and changing. As I get older my mindset evolves and I start to see things differently, so it only makes sense that my goals and the aspects I see as successes also change as time goes on, but one of my goals that has stayed consistent as long as I can possibly remember, is that I want to be the best version of myself that I can be, but what does that mean? 

It's a concept that you hear often "be the best version of yourself", it's been spoken about on blogs, in magazines and in TED talks, it's everywhere, but what does it mean? I think it is unique to all of us, to every single person, the best version of them self is not what the person next to them sees as the best version of them, it's very individual. Lately, I have been thinking a lot about what it means for me to be the best version of myself and the characteristics I think are most important to me. Do I have to be successful to be the best version of myself? Do I have to be hard working? Do I have to be in a good mood at all times? Being anything 24/7 is draining and takes a lot of hard work, so that last one is definitely not going to work for me, but if not, what makes me the best version of myself and do I have to act in a specific way all day, every day to be it or should it just be instinct? 

For many people their best version of them self only comes in the future tense, the best version of them self comes from success, it comes from getting their dream job or graduating university or running their own business. Personally, I want to be able to be the best version of myself now, I want to continuously be the best version of myself and as the world evolves and as I grow that version of myself does too. I want the best version of myself to be something I am, not something I aspire to be. So what does it mean to me to be that version of myself? Who am I and am I that version of myself instinctively or do I have to work to become the better alternative to who I am now? 

Learning What Being "The Best Version of Me" Means

KIND-HEARTED
I've always been very sympathetic, I can't see someone cry or I cry, people I know, characters on tv, strangers on the train, I am very empathetic. Being a good person, being able to place myself in other people's shoes, understanding situations from all angles and being able to channel other emotions are all skills that I think are important in being the best version of myself. To me, it is important to think of others, it is important to see every other person as a human being and never a means to an end. I am sarcastic, I am witty and sometimes my dry humour can rub people the wrong way, but I'd like to think that I've never done anyone wrong purely because I wanted to, I don't think I have ever wanted to do others wrong and to me that's the way I always want it to be, that is what makes me the best version of myself. 

HARDWORKING
To me, to be hardworking is to be successful, I don't need to be the best, I don't need to be the most successful I just have to know that I am doing my best. To me, being hardworking and working for the things I want in life is good enough to mark me down as the best version of myself, whether I manage to get the outcome I was hoping for or if I manage to outdo other people is not as important to me, what is important is how much effort and work I put in. I can only ever see myself as being the best version of myself if I am working hard and letting my work ethic do the talking. I am working on this right now and mentioned it in my January changes post (read here) wherein I note that I try to do something each and every day that will affect my future in a positive way, thus being the best version of myself through my hard work. 

BE UNAPOLOGETICALLY ME
I think during high school, and sometimes afterwards for some people, we go through a stage of changing who we are to please other people. We pretend we like the same music as them, we pretend to have the same beliefs and feelings as them and we can sometimes try to morph into other people by dressing and talking like them. The problem continues long after we become our own person because although we start to find ourselves and realise we are our own person, we still worry about what others may think of us. "Oh I can't wear that, what if people don't like it", "No, I couldn't possibly post that, what if people laugh?" and even now I'll be taking notes in university and wonder "Do people think I am a loser for taking so many notes?" We focus our attention on others and allow them to dictate how we dress, our interests, our habits, our beliefs and how we carry ourselves. For me, being the best version of myself would to never question myself because I am worried about how others see me, to be the best me, is to just be me. 

Learning What Being "The Best Version of Me" Means

TO BE CREATIVE
I have always been creative, I'd be the kid who came up with the new game ideas, I was the one with 4 different notebooks filled with stories I had written, it's always been something that comes naturally to me. Sometimes, however, I let that side of me slip, I get too involved with uni work, I become too obsessed with being perfect and getting things right that I forget to add a creative flair. I  definitely feel my creative side was not well expressed on my blog last year, but to be creative is to be me and the best version of me is creative, is unique and has bounds of ideas just waiting to find a cause. 

FOREVER LEARNING
I love to learn, I love learning new things, I watch documentaries all the time, I seek out TED talks, I went for my masters degree, I love learning. I don't think we have ever hit capacity on learning and I truly believe that each and every day we learn at least one new thing. So I never want to stop learning, I never want to stop seeking opportunities to learn whether it's documentaries on bitcoin or articles about skincare, I always want to be expanding my knowledge and learning. For me, the best version of me is someone who seeks out learning opportunities at every chance.

NEVER SETTLE
From reading this post and many other posts I've published here you could probably tell that I am a dreamer, I am ambitious and I very often write how mediocracy isn't what I want, not that it's a bad thing, I just want my big dreams to come true. If I were to ever settle for less than those dreams, then I definitely don't think I would be being the best version of myself, in fact, I think to settle would be to go completely against who I am a person altogether. However, it is very important that I note this section of the post is not intended to insult anyone like I've said above, we are all individuals and I believe we all have different ideas of what mediocracy is and what it is to live our dreams. Just because your dreams don't align with mine does not mean you are living a mediocre life, you're just living a life opposite to mine and that's okay, I hope it is your dream life and I hope you are loving every second of it.

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