Being Confident and Spreading Self-Love

Saturday, 30 April 2016

Being Confidence and Spreading Self-Love

If you follow me on Twitter you may have saw I had a rant a few days ago about confidence. It's something that has been playing on my mind the past few weeks and I kind of wanted to have a little rant about it on here too, because I think a lot of you guys will feel the same way I do, if not all of you. 
So basically, what I have been thinking about is how society views confidence. If you are unconfident and have no self-esteem then you are told over and over again to have more confidence and told all the reasons you should be more confident in yourself, told you're pretty, you're smart, you're funny, but then when someone is confident in themselves, they know they are pretty, or they hold themselves tall then they are ripped to shreds, told they are cocky, up themselves, egotistical. So what on Earth do you want people to be? 

If I am happy with how I look and I post a lot of selfies online I am so full of myself, but if I hate how I look and constantly call myself ugly it's so sad and I should feel confident. If I hold myself tall I am so egotistical and need to get my head out my ass, but if I walk around constantly staring at my feet then I need to see all the reasons I should be confident. 

Some people aren't even as confident as they let everyone believe, I know this first hand, faking it till you make it with confidence works incredibly well. Some people pretend they think they are attractive, they force themselves to not look at their feet when they walk. These people are still belittled because they appear to have confidence. So if you tell them "oh you're so egotistical, you're not even that good looking" or whatever, then what are you doing to their confidence? They already feel low and are pretending they don't, so your comments just add to what they already believe. 

I personally believe everyone should have confidence and know their worth and not care what anyone may say about them. You're pretty, flaunt it, you're funny, tell loads of jokes and laugh as loud as you can at your own jokes, you're smart? Good, do what you want with your life, you have curves or you love your tiny waist? Flaunt it and where what makes you happy. Everyone should feel happy and confident in themselves because we are all individuals with different, interesting and unique qualities. 

Stop caring about what people think of you. I am constantly told I am stuck up because I don't stare at my feet when I walk, because I wear what makes me feel confident and therefore I hold myself tall. I may not love how I look, I have insecurities because I am human, but people try to bring me down, people I don't know and people I am close to and I have just stopped caring. You don't like what I wear? Good, it's a good job it's me wearing it and not you. You don't like my makeup or hair? Oh well, don't style yours like mine. 

I have just stopped caring because it is actually more about them than it is about you. People who bring down others for being confident are jealous, there is no other reason for it, they are jealous because they are insecure. They want you to feel as low as they do because they are threatened by you. 

If you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all. If you don't like how someone looks or what they dress like then just don't comment. You see someone walking around holding themselves highly because they feel confident in themselves just know that it probably took them a long time to become so happy in who they are. So don't comment on how you dislike their skirt or how they are 'cocky' especially if you don't even know them, because they will have insecurities, just like you. Just be a nice person and focus that energy on loving yourself and helping others love themselves. See a guy staring at his shoes, tell him you like his jacket, see a girl looking timid and shy, hiding themselves from the hustle and bustle, tell her how gorgeous her hair looks. Just be a nice person.

Do you hate how we can't be confident in society? What is one thing you love about yourself? 

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